Social Netoworks Help in Profile Verification

Getting married is an important decision that have a bearing on one’s life. In the case of a love marriage the decision is based more on how each of them loves, influences and likes the other. Though validating the profile and other details of your wouldbe partner applies to both love and arranged marriages, here it is discussed more from the point of view of the arranged marriages.

During yesteryears only limited verification processes such as corroboration of neighbors or details received from the employers were used. Currently more in-depth verification is carried out using private detective services and social media. Let us understand how these sources are effectively used before fixing a marriage prospect.

Neighbors:
Neighbors continue to be the primary source of information about a bride or groom. Here the neighbors include the people who live in the same locality or street, the security guard if it is a housing society and the local vegetable or grocery vendors. More often the information is collected posing as an employer trying to run a background check.

Workplace:
Verification at the workplace is important from the point of view of understanding the real character of the profile as well as the growth prospects and salary package. Such validation becomes easier if you can find some known person close to you within the organisation.

Private Detective:
Engaging of private detectives was once considered as a costly affair and it was mostly used by the affluents. But not any more. Even the lower middle class and middle class families have started using the services of private detectives. Their services are used to determine the full background about the proposed profile. Such detectives collect the needed information by shadowing the profile and use their well placed sources to get other details.The services of the private detectives also can be used exclusively to get information on a particular issue that bothers you.

Social Media
Social Medias have come as a boon to the internet savvy users. Nearly 90% of the users with urban or semi urban background are members of social networking sites such as Facebook, Google+, Twitter and LinkedIn. More often, the Facebook, which is used as the venting point for most of the younger generation reveals their true character. You may view the photos, comments, and the profile descriptions of their friends to understand the most about them. Google+ which is catching up fast also gives you enough information about their friends with similar interests.

LinkedIn is one more Social media that is used by the employed in the lookout of future prospects. This website provides interacting opportunities among peers of various groups to improve the job prospects. Most of the registered profiles of this social network site presents the true picture of the candidate. Verification of a LinkedIn profile will allow you to find the past employment details, interests of the person and to some extent his/her future plans.

Twitter is more used by the younger generation. It has almost replaced the Yahoo or MSN chats. Twitter allows interaction with more than one person and more often the tweeted messages reveals the real character of the profile.

SUN TV Kalyanamalai Shooting at Rajakilpakkam, Chennai

KM Matrimony on 15th December 2012 has arranged its Kalyanamalai SUN TV shooting program at Sanandaa Kalyanamandapam, in Rajakilpakkam, a suburb of Chennai. Though the place was little away from the city limits it did not deter the public from participating and enjoying the program in large numbers. In fact the large public participation has required the arranging of extra chairs outside the function hall and large-sized TV monitors televising the Pattimandram program.

In the morning good numbers of marriage aspirants have participated in the bride or groom introduction shooting of Thiru Kalyanamalai Mohan. The popular SUN TV Kalyanamalai program which benefits immediate marriage happening to the participants enjoys over 85% success rate. A good number of parents registered afresh as members in the Kalyanamalai Thirumana Thiruvizha program simultaneously arranged at the hall.

The evening program started with a welcome address of Mrs.Meera Nagarajan the CEO and Executive Director of KM Matrimony. After the customary welcome address she drew the attention of all the participants about three problems that plague the progress of quicker marriages. She vented her worry about giving too much of importance to matching of horoscopes. She has suggested giving weightage to a single horoscope matching opinion instead of both the parents of bride and groom trying it with different astrologers. She hinted that such an understanding between the parents will assist in the happening of more number of marriages.

Secondly she voiced her concern about divorced or widower males opting to marry unmarried women. She suggested when they have reservations in marrying an unmarried woman at their home to a divorced or a widower male it is justifiable on their part to marry only a divorced or widowed woman. Every one assembled at the hall showed their appreciation with their hand claps.

Thirdly she appealed to the parents not to marry their son with masculine disability to a woman and shatter her marriage dreams. Mr. Nagarajan who talked afterwards explained how everyone in their family got married without giving much importance to horoscope.

Thiru Kalyanamalai Mohan made a short speech and honoured Thiru J Balasubramanian, Director Dena Bank, Thiru B.S.Anand owner of Sanandaa Marriage hall with golden shawls. He similarly honoured Prof Ramachandran who came to chair the evening Pattimandram and the participants Thiru Sivakumar, Prof Parveen Sulthana, Thiru Dheena, Thiru Vishwa, Prof Guru Gnanambikai and Dr. Sangeetha.

The Pattimandram presented the facts on the topic "Whether the Youngsters of today have a bright future" with Thiru Sivakumar, Thiru Dheena and Dr. Sangeetha on one side and Thiru Vishwa, Prof Guru Gnanambikai and Prof Parveen Sulthana. Prof Ramachandran who presided over the Pattimandram presented his verdict after hearing the lively arguments of both the sides with an equally good summation of facts.

Handling Fake Profiles at Matrimonial Websites

It is an interesting fact that more number of people from the 3rd, 4th tier cities and even bigger villages in India, have started using online matrimonial services. The educated younger generation from these places, do not hesitate to use the internet, to register with the well-known matrimonial websites, in search of their life partner. The easy internet access, allows them to search their would be bride or groom, in private or in the company of their parents, without the hassle of travelling to far off places. For those, who believe in horoscope matching, such matrimonial websites, offer a suitable software to check it. The family details, education and expectations about their life partner, enables the matrimonial website users, to zero on the prospective profiles.

Unfortunately, the online matrimony is vulnerable to exploitation by unscrupulous fake users. Currently, more number of scammers, register for online matrimonial services with fake profiles, to exploit and cheat the other users. Often they use fake addresses, false emails created for the purpose, fraud with their education, employment and family details, while registering. While, most of them make such registrations to cheat and make money, some of them do such registration for the sake of fun. It is a sad fact that even some of the matrimonial websites resort to this unethical practice to exaggerate the number of their online registered users.

The websites such as http://www.kmmatrimony.com deploy a number of positive steps to curb such misuse to the extent possible. KM Matrimony on its part calls back each of the registered users on the given telephone number to check the contact details geneuiness of profiles for authenticity and validates it. This process though to a larger extent makes the profile registration as genuine the cross checking of other details such as family, education and employment becomes impossible. But the ground event programs of KM Matrimony such as Mega Community Meet, Thirumana Thiruvizha and others are used for the extensive distribution of all the registered profiles. Such distribution invariably helps in the cross checking of the details by registered participants at the event and helps us to remove the profiles with fake details.
It is essential for such users, to make all the fact-finding enquiries on qualification, education and family, before fixing the marriage. This becomes more important, if a chosen bride or groom is from a different state or country. In the selection process, if they come across a fake profile they should not hesitate to inform the details to the online website. Such information while enable the online website to remove such fake profile will also help others from falling victims to such profiles in future.

Mega Community Meet – Coimbatore

It is heartening to note that parents from more communities, find Kalyanamalai Mega Community Meet, as an ideal solution, to find a fitting life partner for their son or daughter. Such meets, while benefit a bride or groom with proper profiles immediately on registration, also, allows the participants, to become closer to the people of their own community, whom they have not met before. The meetings are often participated by community heads. They find, the unique arrangements of KM Matrimony in organising such meets, results in quick matrimonial alliances within their own community and they always appreciate such initiatives.

There were huge participation and patronage in the recently concluded Varan Thedum Peruvizha combined with Vivaha Prarthana Pooja, and a mega Community Meet at Tambaram, Chennai. For the first time, the Mega Community Meet, arranged on 2nd December, has enabled 27 different communities to take part harmoniously at a single venue. The seamless arrangements provided at the meet received appreciation from every corner.

The confidence, we have gained from arranging similar community meets regularly, has enabled us to organise one more Mega Community Meet at Kaliappa Thirumana Mandapam, Kaundampalayam, Coimbatore. The meet, held on 9th December, has enabled the eligible brides and grooms from Mudaliar, Pillai, Naidu, Viswakarma, Kongu Vellalar, Gounder, SC, Adidravidar, Chettiar and Devendrakula Vellalar communities to take part and benefit. Our Coimbatore Branch office at Kizhakku Ramalingam Road, R.S. Puram, Coimbatore, has made all the arrangements for the community meet

The meet started with the traditional pooja, invoking the blessings of god, to help those seeking marriage alliance during the meet. As usual, the fresh registrants as well as the existing users came in large numbers to take part in the meet. The new registrants were all given an exact matching list with colour profiles that precisely met preferences about their future life partner. Using a bigger sized TV and a sound system, an official from KM Matrimony, has introduced the new participants among the wedding aspirants from each community. Each participant was allowed to give a brief about his or her expectations among the other wedding aspirants assembled at the meet.

This community meet, like any other Mega Community Meet of KM Matrimony, contributed to foster the affinity between various communities.

Mega Community Meet and Vivaha Prarthana Program - Tambaram, Chennai

Our Varan Thedum Peruvizha a Mega Community Meet and Vivaha Prarthana Pooja held at Tambaram in the month July was a grand success. After the meet, we have received a number of thanking phone calls from the parents who were benefited by the meet. We also have received equal or even more number of phone calls from the anxious parents who missed the meet. In fact it was their demand that prompted us to organise a similar program at the same venue.

On 2nd December 2012 KM Matrimony under its Kalyanamalai banner has organised a Varan Thedum Peruvizha. It included a Mega Community Meet covering 27 communities and a Vivaha Prarthana Pooja. The program was held at Jai Gopal Garodia National Higher Secondary School, East Tambaram, Chennai, where the earlier July meet was held. The posters, hand bills and the emails sent to the prospective brides and grooms have perfectly percolated the news about the meet.

The help telephone lines of KM Matrimony started ringing right from the first day of announcement about the meeting date. In spite of advance announcement about 25% hike in tariff from 1st December 2012, KM Matrimony encouraged and even sent mail to its users to avail the benefit of reduced tariff before its rise. Hundreds of people registered before the due date and got benefitted. Many of them have appreciated the good gesture of KM Matrimony in sending such a mail knowing very well that such action will dent in its profits.

The earned experience in conducting events of such size has helped KM Matrimony to make fool-proof arrangements for the meet. Some of the arrangements such as offering colour profiles in colour print matching with the partner preferences (except the jadakam matching) mentioned by the newly registered came as a surprise to many of them. It even enabled some of them to meet the parents of such profiles at the community meet to make further inroads in marriage fixing.

Mr.K.Narayana Rao, Secretary of the Jai Gopal Garodia National Higher Secondary School, Principal of the school and Pulavar Ramalingam were among the invited guests when the program started with Vivaha Prarthana Pooja and Homam. Kalyanamalai Mohan, Chairman of KM Matrimony and Mrs.Meera Nagarajan, Managing Director of KM Matrimony have welcomed the gathering, honoured the invitees and did the first sankalpams for the Pooja. The other people who have registered for the pooja performed sankalpams narrating the names of their closed ones to get the real benefit of the Pooja and the Homam. The people who have performed sankalpams include those who have performed for themselves, their son or daughter, sister, brother, relative or a friend. In every Vivaha Prarthana Event we see the number of people joining such sankalpam is increasing. It clearly indicates the growing level of faith for the prarthana and the ever-increasing level of beneficiaries.

Experienced, learned and well-trained Vedic scholars started the poojas with a traditional first Pooja to Lord Ganapathi to invoke his blessings and for the smooth organising of the program. In the Swayamvara Parvathy Pooja, the goddess Parvathy and God Siva were presented as Kokilambal and Udvaganathar of Thirumanancher, where, the marriage of them supposed to have taken place. To perform archana to the deity gold dipped Swarna Kamalams were used.

The Vedic scholars then performed Haridra Ganapathi Homam to bless the devotees with disease-free life and to protect them from evil spirits, Lakshmi Kubera Homam to bless bountiful wealth to the devotees, and Sudarsana homam to save the devotees from all types of miseries. The Swayamvara Parvathi Homam performed to remove all types of obstacles that prevent performing of a marriage and bless the couples with successful marriage was performed. The Navagraha home performed was aimed at to protect the participants and others from the evils of all the graha doshams.

At the end of all the homams poornahuthi offering sandal paste, kumkum, herbs, fruits, dry coconut, dry fruits, blouse, vasthirams, and silk saree along with flower garlands to please the god Agni was performed. The poojas concluded with neivethyam and other upacharas to the deities present. Prasadams were distributed to all the devotees assembled for the pooja.

The visitors who came to register for the services at the meet where given good briefing on various services offered by KM Matrimony, their benefits, plus and minus points and the price. The convincing talking and the result oriented schemes offered by KM Matrimony pleased a number of registrants, and they registered for the services.

In the community meet arranged for 27 communities at various rooms earmarked a large sized TV kept projected the profiles for the best view of the participants. A well-trained KM Matrimony official offered descriptions of each profile appeared on-screen and came in person at the hall. The people who got introduced at the hall explained their preferences about future life partner in a clear and unambiguous tone for an early marriage.

The mega meet scheduled to end around 2.00 PM continued beyond 4.00 PM due to good response from the new registrants. We find that increased number of people are registering with KM Matrimony for achieving early marriage. They all have understood its reach and its mission in percolating the registered profiles through its organised Mega Community Meets, Kalyanamalai Magazine and SUN TV program.
The next Mega Community Meet is arranged at Coimbatore 9th December 2012 and Kalyanamalai SUN TV shooting is arranged on 15th December 2012 at Rajakilpakkam, Chennai.

Creating a Successful Online Matrimonial Profile

There is an upsurge in the use of matrimonial websites in India. More number of educated men and women find matrimonial websites as a convenient place to search his or her life partner.

It is an undeniable fact that only a well constructed on-line profile will help you in finding your partner in the web. Your matrimonial profile seen by thousands of potential brides or grooms and their parents should offer them the needed information unambiguously. Always give the genuine information about you in the profile. It is very easy for anyone to cross-check the details and weed out the profiles infested with bogus information.

Filling up the Basic Details

Most of the online matrimonial websites will need you to give your personal details such as your name, gender, date of birth/age, family details, and community information. Provide your applicable marital status properly as unmarried/divorced/widowed and marriage not consummated. While the unmarried or widowed registrants need not provide any certificate to prove their status the divorced and the marriage not consummated registrants need to send a copy of the divorce certificate to make the online registration functional.

Fill in your education and professional details correctly. This will always help those seeking their partner with a specific qualification and profession to reach you. Give your correct phone mobile and email contact details. Such details, while increasing profile seeker’s confidence also will enable him/her to reach you quickly.

Your Photograph

Your online registration will remain incomplete without a proper photo of you. Remember, only a clear and well focused photo will create the first-best impression about you in the mind of the profile seekers. Online marriage seekers will normally ignore profiles without photos. Always upload multiple number of clear photos, showing both close-up and long shots for use in the profile. Please make sure that all the uploaded photos have only you in the frame.

Physical Attributes & Personal Habits

Mentioning of your physical attributes and your personal habits plays a vital role. Your opposite sex who is in the lookout for a right partner will always go through such details. Correct mentioning of your height, weight, complexion and physique will get you a right partner. Don’t forget to mention your blood group and disabilities if any. Filling up the details on your hobby and other interests will help others to understand more about your positive side.

Brief Self Explanation

Similarly do not fail to give a brief self-explanation about your expectations of your life partner. Always write a crisp self explanation that will project you as the right person. Don’t include your personal physical description and never give away any intimate details in the profile.

Regularly Visit your Profile

Lastly make it a point to log-in to your profile page everyday and reply the received expression of interest mails and the mails that answers to your expression of interest. Never fail to reply the mails received on your given e-mail ID or the contacts made on your telephone or mobile numbers.

All the best.

The Art of Making a Marriage Successful

Making a marriage successful and working for the happiness of the couple is not a big issue. Any couple can achieve it with an inclination to understand his or her partner and a willingness to compromise. No marriage is complete without heartburn, confusion and problems and no couple will have the same likes and dislikes, mental attitude, faiths and view.

It is also a fact that marriage life will lack liveliness and will be devoid of all its charm if there are no conflicts or arguments between the couples. For a successful marriage, it is important to sort out all the differences and troubling issues within a short time-frame instead of mentally carrying them all through the life.

Respecting the Self-respect

Recent statistics on ‘Women workforce in India’ indicates that nearly 26.1% of the rural women and 13.8% of the urban women are employed. This confirms that almost every third woman who is getting married is employed. It is heartening to note that the percentage of independent women is increasing and such employed women are willing to share the family responsibilities along with the men.

Most of the current day newly married working couple have learnt the art of respecting other’s sentiments, opinions and views. They are careful in not hurting the self-pride of the other. They are able to have frank discussions on the disturbing demeanor of the partner if any, to sort it out. They also have learnt to tolerate and live with those deep-rooted habits of their partners with understanding. It is only those couples who fail or refuse to have such understandings fail in their married life.

Managing Money

Another important aspect that makes or mars a marriage is managing money. When both the partners are earning, it is essential to have a frank discussion about the handling of finance. An outspoken discussion on the total income, expenses, and savings will help to have a smoother running. Understanding couples are able to apportion the money for contingency expenses, medical expenses, unexpected travel, children’s education and entertainment and manage the issue successfully.

Caring Parents

The practices of the single-child norms by the parents have resulted in single child families. Being the only daughter or only son for their parents the bride or groom always offer proper respect to their in-laws. Unlike the earlier years, the married women are able to extend even financial support to their aged parents.

It is inspiring to note that the current-day couples are able to care their parents both individually and collectively. They are able to handle this caring part deftly without creating differences between the in-laws. It is also becoming common that both the families live together in a single house when the married -couple work or live abroad.

Removing Ideological Barrier and Managing Difference of Opinion

Another right step for a successful marriage is conflict management. The basic element for an effective conflict management is to get trained to put across your ideas properly and keep-up utmost patience in listening. It is crucial to listen to your spouse when she or he expresses anguish or ire. While it is important to discuss and sort-out the differences without delay, it is also prudent to postpone it when it becomes emotional.

The couples always should have an open heart to listen without relating the present conflict with the past. It is a fact that some of the conflicts will at no time get solved and remain forever. Never ever try to trace and go back to relate those old conflicts with the one that has arisen recently. Your winning the conflict or establishing the right need not be at the cost of hurting your spouse. Learn not to make personal remarks upon the character of your spouse or his or her family. Your choice of words should carry the sympathy and an expression that understand the pain of your spouse. Do away with that stonewalling attitude and allow free flow of emotions to sort out the difference at the very first opportunity.
Never allow your differences to erode your individual profile or create a wild impression about you to others.

Fulfilling Emotional & Personal Needs

The emotional and personal needs for a man and woman are not similar. Men constantly fall flat when his accomplishments are accepted, appreciated, admired and approved. He will invariably look for someone to trust and confide his feelings and emotions. The women, on the other hand, will unfailingly look for respect, care, understanding, and ardent love. She will always remain devoted to anyone who is truthful and supportive. The couple who had understood these basics will unhesitatingly oblige to the emotional needs of his or her partner. Never encourage violence in any form during the heated conflicts.

Sex between the couple is no more a taboo. It is essential for the couple to stay open, mentally grow and even go to an extra mile to understand the personal need of the partner. In case of experiencing any inadequacy do not hesitate to seek the advice from a doctor or an expert.

Trivia

Learn to live a healthy life. Your healthy life should include a healthy and fit body and an energetic mind. Promote and advocate the personal growth of your spouse. Develop a sense of humour and be creative in having it every day. Always remain cheerful and learn to live your day completely with satisfaction with no hangover of your past.