Tuesday, 5 March 2013

The Changing Face of Arranged Marriages in India

As a matrimonial company, KM matrimony, will always advocate for and support arranged marriages. It is a surprising fact that other than India, countries such as Sri Lanka, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nepal, East Asian, Southeast Asian countries, Middle East and Africa, also encourage arranged marriages. Such arranged marriages are also prevalent among the followers of Hasidic Judaism and Unification Church. It is interesting to know that Iran, Japan and some of the South American countries, are also among the list of countries that encourages arranged marriages.

Arranged Marriages

In India, arranged marriages continue to dominate over the love marriages. Unlike a love marriage, where a person chooses his/her the life partner, in an arranged marriage, the parents or family members play a vital role, in choosing one's life partner. More often, it is the parents who select a suitable partner for their son or daughter, after evaluating the family background, education and the outlook of the bride or groom.

Typical Processes in a Current Day Arranged Marriage

It is a proven fact that the success percentage of marriages, between people with similar background is more than those, with dissimilar backgrounds. The parents, who are aware of it, normally give more credence to the mutual compatibility than sex appeal, in their choice for a bride or groom. During the profile matching process, other than the horoscope matching, the details such as family background, education details, hobbies and interest, color, height, weight, property value and earning ability and the food habits are also considered. In some of the cases, even the private detective services are used, to check the background of a bride or groom and their social habits.

Arranged Dating

There is a mistaken belief that all the arranged marriages are forced marriages. But it is not so. Most of the parents, make all the preliminary checks mentioned above, satisfy themselves, before informing their son or daughter their choice. They further use the opportunity, to explain the pros and cons of marrying the chosen bride or groom. The bride and groom are urged to meet and understand each other, before a close relative or alone in a public place. Finally, the parents, give freedom to their children to accept or reject their decision and choice.


The freedom to accept or reject the choice of the parent, with valid reasons, makes the arranged marriages more advantageous. Except those youngsters, with an impulsive attraction towards the superficial and prominent attributes such as, external personality, hobbies and beauty, others continue to emphasize more on the cultural and family background that are time-tested.