The frustration about the choice of a wrong life partner,
often surfaces among couples who underwent arranged marriages, bowing to family
pressure. Though, most of the present day generation, is categorical about
their marriage preferences and expectations about their life partner, some of them, failed to understand their own preferences or
express their choice and yield to family pressure.
For instance, a woman
with high expectations regarding her life partner's qualification and earning
capability, when married to someone with
a different qualification or lesser qualification and earning, will feel
betrayed. She will feel frustrated and such frustration will reflect on her family life. Her husband, who is innocent and unaware of her preferences,
will be at the receiving end for no fault of his. Similar will be the mindset
of a man with high expectations, when married to some woman, who does not match
his expectations. In this case it's his wife who is innocent, will be at the
receiving end.
It is found that people who suffer such frustrations, will
not talk about it in the initial years,
but, only show it off in their actions after some years, affecting the partner. The partner, will bear
the brunt and suffer silently, without knowing the real cause. When the reason
for such frustrations is revealed after a few years, it causes mental trauma to
both of them and reflect on their family life.
Marriage counselors ,who deal with such couples, will always
suggest them to find the best in their life partner, instead of brooding over
the missing portion. They will suggest them, to look into only the positive
aspects of their life partner. While most of them will learn the art for the
sake of keeping their marriage intact, some of them will refuse and head for a
split.
Conclusion
It is essential for the young people, who are willing to
undergo an arranged marriage, to discuss their life partner preferences, with
their parent or guardian. They should not get succumbed to external pressures ,to
compromise on their marriage aspirations. In case, they fail to convince their
parents and put to undergo such a marriage, they must learn not reflect it in
the married life, thus making the innocent partner a victim of no fault.
